“Maybe I’m not capable of being the leader that I want to be.”
“I’m not confident that I can do a decent job as an executive.”
“Who do I think I am? Truth be known, I’m not really very effective in my role.”
So many leaders talk about how they sometimes feel like a fraud in their role—and that they’re convinced they’re going to be found out.
At times, they’re certain that they’re an imposter who’s not capable of doing a half-decent job, let alone shine in their role.
They think that the career success that they’ve achieved so far was a fluke.
Even Dr. Margaret Chan, when she was Director-General of the World Health Organisation, said,
“There are an awful lot of people out there who think I’m an expert. How do these people believe all this about me? I’m so much aware of all the things I don’t know.”
You Can Turn It Around
This “imposter syndrome” is very common—especially amongst female leaders, but it shows up for many male leaders at some point in their careers too.
I know these thoughts and feelings are debilitating. The good news is that removing them is realistic, practical and achievable.
Let’s face it, they are subjective, emotional thoughts and feelings—that are highly likely to be unfounded.
Confronting Your Imposter Syndrome
These unfounded self-doubts need to be—must be—confronted so you can confidently progress your career.
- First, be aware when any negative internal dialogue shows up
- Then, ask yourself whether your thinking is realistic or if it’s unfounded.
When your thinking is realistic
…instead of beating yourself up, take developmental action—such as seeking advice from an expert, or up-skilling.
When your self-doubts are unfounded
…confront them for what they are. Acknowledge that your thoughts, feelings and internal dialogue is simply this “imposter” stepping in. Your thoughts, feelings and internal dialogue are not the truth!
Get into the habit of removing any negative bullshit that shows up in your head. Call it for what it is—and replace it with your memories of when you’ve shone in the past.
Hold your head high and step forward with courage and certainty.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
For more than 25-years, Carolyn Stevens has helped leaders flourish and become more confident, more courageous and impressively influential.
She specialises in helping ambitious but frustrated female leaders become a totally inspiring and sought-after leader.
Carolyn is authentic and results-oriented. She’ll draw on an eclectic array of approaches, tools and techniques to suit your situation.
She’s never too busy to talk to you if you’re in a hurry to boost your success. Same goes for leaders you refer.
Email if you’d like to arrange a time to chat: carolyn@leadingperformance.com.au
