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How You Behave as A Leader Is Way More Important Than What You Do

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    How You Behave as A Leader Is Way More Important Than What You Do

    By Carolyn Stevens | Emotional Intelligence, I'm OK, You're OK, People Leadership, You As A Leader | 0 comment | 15 November, 2017 | 14

    Have you ever worked for a leader who put most of their energy into what they do—things like strategic planning, motivating the team to produce results, following up on commitments, and so on……

    ……rather than who they are as a leader—things like always being authentic and personally disciplined and oozing emotional intelligence?

     

    “Statistically Speaking, Well-Developed People Make More Effective Leaders”

    That’s what Tim Spiker states in, “Who* Not What, The Hidden Truth About Leadership”.

    His book reveals that,

    77% of a leader’s effectiveness is determined by how
    “inwardly sound” and how “outwardly focused” they are.

    He describes “inwardly sound” leaders as being:

    • Clear about their identity
    • Self-aware
    • A person with high moral character
    • Disciplined
    • Clear about their personal mission.

    And he describes “outwardly focused” leaders as having:

    • Humility
    • Emotional maturity
    • Agape (This is a Greek word that describes a person who consistently makes the decision to take-care-of-others and to do what’s in the other person’s best interests.)

     

    More Than Three-Quarters of Your Success as A Leader Is Being Determined by Who You Are—Not by What You Do

    This is crucial information if you want to be at your best as a leader.

    It begs the question, how well developed are you as a person and as a leader?

    Will you be a more effective leader when you’re:

    • Clearer about who you are and what you stand for?

    —meaning that you live securely and comfortably in your own skin. You accept who you are and don’t have a need for others’ to validate or approve of you.

    • More authentic with your thoughts and feelings?

    —and therefore you talk, without hesitation, about the elephant in the room. And you quickly and directly confront tricky team member, peer or boss situations.

    • 100% trustworthy and personally disciplined?

    —people know that they never need to question your integrity. They never wonder whether you’ll follow through on your word.

    • A model of impressive emotional intelligence?

    —you’re self-aware, you’re humble, you manage your emotions impeccably (no matter how stressful the situation). You habitually take an “I’m OK/ you’re OK” stance. People always, always, always feel valued and respected by you.

     

    Your Call to Action

    If you’re in a hurry to boost your success by being more “inwardly sound” and more “outwardly focused”, and you’re open to having a phone chat about how you could do that, please email me to arrange a time to talk.

     

    “Being coached provided a safe and supportive environment
    to unpack key challenges that were affecting my development.

    Since being coached, I have a broader range of techniques
    to calmly and effectively deal with recurring challenges.
    I am also more willing to address issues early and take action.

    —Executive, not-for-profit sector


    About The Author:

    Carolyn Stevens has worked with leaders—hundreds of them—for more than 25-years.

    She’s helped leader after leader feel total pride in who they are as a leader—confident, courageous, impressively influential (even when they’ve previously struggled to confront the difficult, let alone persuasively deal with it).

    Carolyn is authentic and results-oriented. She’ll draw on an eclectic array of approaches, tools and techniques to suit your situation.

    She’s never too busy to talk to you—or to leaders you refer who’re in a hurry to boost their success.

    Email to arrange a time to chat: carolyn@leadingperformance.com.au

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